Officer Friendly

Friends are great. They pick you up when you’re down. Offer a shoulder to cry on in times of grief. They keep you from seriously hollering at that chick with the out of control muffin top after you’ve had one too many. Yep, where would we be without our friends?

In a relationship though, sometimes people drift away from their friends as they pour all their energy into wooing and keeping the new S.O. happy. Striking a balance between your friends who’ve been there since the beginning and your new boo who tunes your happy parts and can cook a steak up, is often a difficult task.

After a lighthearted bondage and cosplay session the other day, Sasha asked me how I would feel if my girlfriend said she was going on an outing with a straight, male friend. Me, being the logical brother that I am, said – cool, no problem. I mean, if they’re just friends (and were before we met), no harm no foul, y’know. After all, she’s not my wife and I just came on the scene. When it comes to relationships I see myself as a sort of macromanager. I want my space, and in turn, I’ll give her the same. Hopefully, by that point we’re secure in our relationship and I would have laid my game down so flat that the thought of her even messing with another dude would be considered a downgrade. Now if they had a history, I may feel a little different because he may still be trying to tap a little more water out of that well.

Besides, I don’t have the time or mental energy to be ultra possessive. All my fellas reading this – checking cell phone history, hiding out in bushes, and blacklighting your girl’s panties, just isn’t a good look. If a woman is gonna cheat, there’s not really much you can do about it. Females are much more craftier than men, and nothing short of putting an RFID tag in her chocha will keep her from getting a lil something on the side.

Mistress Sasha said however that most guys would, and should, get jealous in this situation – and while I don’t agree, I can understand that thinking. Men view women as a type of resource, and when they feel that someone’s encroaching on it, can get territorial. Conversely, I think women want the feeling of being cherished, coveted, and protected, and maybe having a guy be insanely jealous and possessive of them is some twisted way of displaying that.

Considering both sides of the aforementioned coin – I still hold to the premise that if it’s just a friend, it’s cool. I’m by no means naive and ushering her into the guys bed – I’m just hands off in my approach. Plus, I have women I want to maintain a platonic relationship with (those are the best rebound referrals when things go sour with the mrs)…so what’s good for the goose is good for the gander, in my opinion.

Patrons of V&M, how do you feel about your s.o. maintaing platonic relationships with the opposite sex? Have you ever been in a situation where an opposite sex friend of your s.o. was venturing into restricted airspace, and if so, how did you deal?

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